Know Thy Personality

Have you ever tried to understand your personality? If not, please do it.

We very often think about others and keep on evaluating their personalities.

This does not benefit us so much as we are benefited by doing our own evaluation and introspection.

If we understand ourselves, we can remove our deficiencies and bring about an improvement in ourselves.

If we think ourselves perfect, it’s our folly.

Nothing is perfect in this mortal world; nothing is complete truth, except God.

 The first stage to understand ourselves is that we should believe that we are not perfect in everything. We must consider ourselves incomplete beings and try to find out as to in which area we are deficient.

I may tell you to the easiest way to find out our deficiency. I will present before you several personalities you will find out yourselves among them.

Please take it granted that everyone cannot have everything.  We are always deficient in one thing or the other in our life.

If you have patience, believe me that you possess the greatest treasure of the world.

  

Some people (men or women) are such as want to make themselves pitiable & discontented and find peace and satisfaction in this situation even if they have enough in their life. Despite that, they have to remain uncomfortable and worried.

Think of a person in whose house ‘all is well’; the son works in a company; daughters have been married off and he (father) himself lives willingly in his parental village with his wife.

  

He still nourishes a hope that his son must take prior permission from him to fulfill all domestic needs. For example, if he wants to purchase an AC or a washing machine for his use, he must ask his father for permission.

If you are such a father, please understand and grant your son independence in this independent country. It you are such a son, we feel sorry for you and hope that your father will be reading this blog!

Let your son live according to his decisions when he becomes economically independent.

Now I tell you about a person, who is a woman; who got married two or three years ago.

When a girl becomes a married woman and comes to live in a new house with her in-laws, she has to bring about some changes in her personality; she has to make some adjustments in new conditions and has to make a coordination and harmony where there are hurdles and oddities.

If she does not do so, she will remain upset.

There are such persons who always take delight in teasing others or disturbing peaceful atmosphere by their pieces of mischief.

Dear readers, you will be astonished to know that such persons are found in abundance in this world.

( In my next blog, I will talk about some more personalities. Please wait!)

अपने वक्तित्व को समझिए! Understand Your Personality!

क्या आपनेअपने आप को समझने का प्रयत्न कभी किया है?

यदि  नहीं तो कृपया ऐसा अवश्य कीजिये l

हम अक्सर दूसरों के ही बारे में सोचते हैं और उनके ही व्यक्तित्व के बारे में अपना मूल्यांकन करते रहते हैंl

इस मूल्यांकन का हमें इतना लाभ नहीं होता  जितना हमें अपना मूल्यांकन करने से होता हैl

यदि हम अपने आप को समझ लें तो हम अपनी कमियों को दूर कर सकते हैं, स्वयं में सुधार कर सकते हैं l

यदि हम स्वयं को परफेक्ट अथवा पूर्ण मानते हैं तो यह हमारी भूल हैl

इस संसार में कुछ भी पूर्ण नहीं हैं ; कुछ भी पूर्ण सत्य नहीं है सिवाय परमात्मा केl

पहला चरण यही है कि हम स्वयं को अधूरा मान लें और अपनी कमियों को ढूढ़ने का प्रयत्न   करेंl 

अपनी कमियों को ढूढ़ने का मैं आपको सरल उपाय बताता हूँ l

जिन व्यकित्वों की मैं अब बात करूँगा, आप केवल यह पहचानने का प्रयत्न  कीजिये कि उनमें से आप कौन से हैंl

कृपया आप यह भी मान कर चलिए कि सब को सब कुछ कभी नहीं मिल सकता; किसी न किसी वस्तु की कमी आपके जीवन में अवश्य रहती हैंl

यदि संतोष और सब्र आपके पास है तो समझ लीजिए की दुनियां का सबसे बड़ा खजाना आप के पास हैl

 कुछ व्यक्ति (महिला या पुरुष)  ऐसे होते हैं जो स्वयं को दया का पात्र बनl कर रखना कहते हैं; उन्हें इसी स्थिति में सुकून या चैन मिलता हैl

भले ही उनके जीवन में बहुत कुछ है l इतना होने के बावजूद भी उन्हें परेशान और बेचैन रहना ही हैl

ऐसा व्यक्तित्व एक पिता का भी हो सकता है, जिसके घर में सब ठीक है, बेटा किसी कम्पनी में जॉब करता है और अपनी पत्नी के साथ दूर किसी शहर में रहता है ; बेटी या बेटियों की शादी हो चुकी है और वह स्वयं अपनी इच्छा से अपने पुश्तैनी गांव में अपनी पत्नी के साथ  रहता हैl  

वह अपने बेटे से अब भी यही उम्मीद करता है कि वह अपने सारे कार्य उनसे पूछ पूछ कर करे  यदि कोई बड़ी वस्तु घर में खरीद कर लानी है तो उनसे ही परमिशन लेंl

यदि आप भी ऐसे पिता हैं तो कृपया अपने बेटे को स्वतन्त्र ही रहने दीजियेl

उसे अपना जीवन उसके  अनुसार ही जीने दीजिये l

मैं अब आपको ऐसे ही व्यक्ति के बारे में बताता हूँ जो  एक महिला हो सकती है, जिन की शादी दो तीन वर्ष पूर्व ही हुई हैl जब कोई लड़की शादी होने के कारण अपने सास व् ससुर के घर आती है तो उसे अपने जीवन में कुछ बदलाव लाने होते हैंl उसे अब दूसरों की सोच  और अपनी सोच में ताल -मेल या समन्वय स्थापित करना होता हैl

यदि वह ऐसा नहीं करेगी तो परेशान ही रहेगीl

कुछ व्यक्तित्व ऐसे होते हैं जिन्हे अशांति पैदा करने में ही मज़ा आता हैl

प्रिय पाठको आप हैरान होंगे कि इस दुनियां में ऐसे व्यक्तित्व बहुत हैंl

(अभी शेष है ...)

...how to react to unsavoury remarks.

Pupil: Sometimes our own near and dear ones say something that hurts and pinches us so much that we get irritated and intend to react immediately in the same tone. Several times we do so, but that spoils the mood and our day gets lost somewhere because those words keep on haunting our mind. Whenever we think to enjoy our present time, those words of the past appear before our inward eye and dance like specters horrible.

What is the solution to it?

Teacher: What do you want?

Pupil: I want peace of mind. I want to enjoy my present time quite oblivious of the unsavoury things.

Teacher: Then, why do you complain about this. Forget the incident and enjoy your present.

Pupil: I want to set him or her right?

Teacher: How can you set others right without setting yourself right?

Pupil: I have not understood your point Guruji.

Teacher: It is very simple. Suppose you react at once in the same tone to make him or her irritated because you yourself have got the one. It would not decrease your irritation, rather the Satan in you will be pleased and he will keep on inciting you to do such negative activities.

On the other hand, if you console yourself by making you understand that that person has very little sense of behaviour. He or she has not got broad mind to behave with people in a courteous manner. So it is not his or her fault. So why make myself irritated?

Pupil. Thank you Guruji. I would follow it now and make my life go smoothly and peacefully.

दिलोदिमाग़ Thoughts versus Emotions

ईश्वर ने दिल को ऊंचा स्थान नहीं दिया है1 यह स्थान दिमाग को ही दिया है1 इसीलिए दिल की सुनो परन्तु उसपर अमल सोच समझ कर करो नहीं तो गलतियां होती रहेंगी और आप कहोगे:

ज़रा सी बात पे हर रस्म तोड़ आया था,
दिल-ए-तबाह ने भी क्या मिज़ाज पाया था !!
-जाँ निसार अख़्तर..

The Superior Way To Live Life!

There have been good points as well as negative points in civilizations of the world. We should imbibe in us the good points of them.
In western civilization, there has been an emphasis on materialism and they have explored it to the optimum while the Orientals have explored the spiritual field to the optimum.
Material world, although indispensable, brings forth many evils and makes our life infested with them while the spirituality cures the evils born out of materialism, and in this way it is the superior way of living on the planet Earth without much tension. Tension does come in our life as we have to adopt materialism also to become a part of the mainstream of life, but it is released with our spiritualistic beliefs!
Spiritualism helps us win over the irrelevant desires and keeps us away from the mad race of materialism!
प्रत्येक सभ्यता में कुछ बुराइयां भी होती हैं और कुछ अच्छाइयां भी १
हमें अच्छाइयों को अपनाना चहिये१
पश्चमी सभ्यता के लोगों ने भौतिकता वाद पर अधिक बल दिया है जब कि हमारी सभ्यता में अध्यातिमकवाद पर अधिक बल दिया है १
यदि हम अध्यातिमकता पर चलें तो भौतिकतावाद से जो बुराई पैदा होती है उस-से बचा जा सकता है!
आध्यातिमकतावाद से मन पर विजय प्राप्त कि जा सकती है जब कि भतिकतावाद हमें पैसे और अन्य भौतिक वस्तुओं के भोग और उनके अधिपत्य क़ी एक पागलपन वाली दौड़ में शामिल कर देता है!
इस प्रकार से हम भौतिकतावादी होते हुवे भी आध्यातिमकता के मार्ग पर चल सकते हैं!

इंसान गलतियों का पुतला है

इंसान गलतियों का पुतला है......गलतियां कोई कार्य करते समय हो सकती है हमारे आचरण में हो सकती हैं, हमारी वाणी के कारण हो सकती हैं तथा हमारे स्वभाव में आये अचानक बदलाव के कारण हो सकती है क्यों  कि आज के युग में हर इंसान किसी न किसी तरह के दबाव व् तनाव का शिकार है1

सबसे बड़ी बात है कि हम अपने व्यवहार का मुल्यांकन करें पर अपनी गलती का एहसास होते ही उसे मान लें1

इससे और बड़ी बात यह है कि हम गलती करने वाले को दिल से क्षमा भी कर दें ये सोच कर कि गलती तो हमसे भी होती है और अपने रिश्ते को और मजबूत करने के रस्ते पर आगे बढ़ जाएँ!

...why some people always remain enthusiastic and spirited?

Have you ever thought why we aren't always the same i.e. full of enthusiasm and hope? Some of the people who always remain spirited may be an exception.

Our mind is the source where from all thoughts emerge and then the processing of those thoughts is very much necessary; otherwise, those crude thoughts will find manifestation in several forms. Those will come out in the shape of speech, actions or remain in the mind in silent mode.

If the person is religiously and morally strong, there is very less chance that the crude thoughts take place in the mind or they succeed in becoming mature without passing through the automatic filter of screening crude thought.

To make our moral fiber strong we need to be religious-minded. Then we must be habitual of doing introspection, studying great books and gaining much of wisdom from life-experiences.

The problem arises for the teen-agers whose thoughts are dominated by their emotions.

When any thought emerge in our minds, it is also pushed by the emotional urge. If the person does not give it time to pass through the screening filter, it comes out in the form of words, action or shape the outlook of the person.

I am talking about the ‘screening filter’ which is nothing but a phrase to describe the process that usually takes place in our minds to maintain a balance between thoughts and emotions so that our actions, speech and outlook towards life in general and towards other people becomes mature and exhibit wisdom.

The people who use this screening filter are supposed to be wise and rational in their behaviour.

Now I talk about those who always remain enthusiastic and energetic. These are the people who adhere to their time-table and certain principles of life. They do their activities according to their planning. They do not work randomly.

Their day begins with morning walk and by doing some physical exercises, yoga, meditation, etc. They do not break this routine. They have fixed time for eating, relaxing, entertainment and other activities. They have full emotional control and so they have very good eating habits.

Negative thoughts do come in their minds, but they channelize these into positive or rational activities. That’s why they remain enthusiastic and spirited.