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Why People Break Discipline? ऐसा क्यों हो रहा है...?

अनुशाशनहीनता  क्या होती और यह मानव जाति का कितना नुक्सान कर सकती है , इसकी जीती जागती मिसाल आज हम सब के सामने है!
न केवल हिन्दुस्तान में अपितु विदेशों में भी इसके उदाहरण मिल रहे हैंl
अनुशाशनहीनता के जो तुरंत या दूरगामी दुष्परिणाम होते हैं, वे ही हम सब को अनुशाशन कायम रखने की शिक्षा देते हैंl
जब यह घोषणा कर दी गयी कि हम सब को कोरोना वायरस कोविड 19 को समाप्त करने के लिए अपने अपने घरों में ही रहना है, तो क्यों इस  आदेश एवं करबद्ध विनती का सम्मान नहीं किया जा रहा? क्या इस लिए ऐसा किया जा रहा है कि देश  के प्रधान मंत्री को किसी पार्टी से सम्बंधित होने के विचार से देखा जा रहा है?

अरे देश-वासियो, विषम परिस्थितियों में भी आप यदि  राजनीति के रंग में रंगे हुवे हो, तो ऐसा लगता है कि ईश्वर भी शायद यह देख कर दुखी हो  रहे होंगे कि मानव जाति यह किस दौर में पहुँच चुकी है कि  सच्चाई इन्हे दिखाई नहीं दे रही है...l मौत आज गली- गली प्रत्येक मोहल्ले में घूम रही है कि कब किस को अपना शिकार बनाया जाये!
मौत को आमंत्रित करने वाले मानव जाति के ही कुछ लोग हैं जो शायद किसी दानव परम्परा से कहीं न कहीं जुड़े हुवे हैं l
जब- जब प्रकृति के साथ खिलवाड़ होता है, प्रकृति किसी न किसी रूप में हम सब को दण्डित करती हैl
यह और बात है कि प्रकृति का डंडा शायद बहुत से लोगों को दिखाई नहीं देता  और वे यह बात जब तक मानने को तैयार नहीं होते जब तक उनका कोई संबधी या पडोसी इस दंड का शिकार नहीं होताl
कुछ लोगों के कर्मों की सजा एक पूरी नस्ल को भोगनी पड़ जाती है l
आज यही तो हो रहा है?
हमारे देश में बहुत से लोग ऐसे हैं जो कोरोना   वायरस के खतरे को नहीं जान रहे क्यूंकि, क्षमा करना मुझे यह कहना पड़ रहा है कि, उनका कोई अभी इस महामारी का शिकार नहीं हुआ हैl
तभी तो आप अपने पड़ोस में देख रहे होंगे कि किस प्रकार से लोग एक दूसरे के घरों में आ-जा   रहे हैं, ताष के पत्ते खेल रहे है और किट्टी पार्टी कर रहे हैंl
क्यों    नहीं हम बाहर के मुल्क़ों की दुर्दशा देख कर संभल जाते?
हमारे   देश में आज भी बहुत से लोग ऐसे हैं जो टेलीविज़न को देखते तक नहीं है
उनका एक ही मकसद है --का लो, पी लो और सो लोl
उन्हें या तो बिज़नेस की पड़ी  होती है या फिर गप्प गोष्ठियों में वक़्त बर्बाद करने कीl
अखबार तो क्या वे कभी टीवी पर समाचार भी नहीं सुनतेl
आप ऐसे लोगों को क्या कहोगे? आप हैरान हो रहे होंगे की क्या ऐसे भी कुछ लोग हैं? हाँ मैं जनता हूँ कुछ ऐसे लोगों को! अगर मैं जानता हूँ तो आप भी अवश्य ही जानते होंगे!
लिखने को तो बहुत था इस विषय पर , परन्तु अधिकतर लोग पढ़ते भी कम है, इस लिए यहीं समाप्त करता हूँ , यह कह कर कि ऐसी परिस्थिति में यदि लोग प्यार से नहीं मानते तो सख्ती करना ही एकमात्र विकल्प बचा सरकारों पर!
धन्यवाद!

Crime Sneaking in Schools

Crime Sneaking in Schools

Crime has spread its tentacles everywhere in society so much so that even the innocent children are becoming its victims. The cruel act of killing an innocent child in a school at Gurugram is an eye-opener example to ascertain as to how ensuring security to the school children has become the task of topmost-priority. It is high time for all the school-teachers, principals, the administrators and the owners of all private schools and even the teachers, the heads and the officers in top echelons of their cadres in Govt. Schools to organize meetings, to invite suggestions from all in order to plug the loopholes if they find them in security arrangements done so far in their schools.

There is a dire need of sensitizing all the staff-members to be extra careful and vigilant in detecting any security lapse being done at any level in schools. Once such untoward incident or any crime of grave proportion takes place, then, it is to be kept in mind that all is lost almost forever.

The Drivers & the Conductors

Firstly, the drivers and the conductors of buses should be interviewed properly. They may be given a test of multiple choice in which their deep rooted thoughts and emotions can be tested. It should be scrutinized that they are sensitive to human sufferings; they have in them moral values; they are not violent in their behavior towards children while tackling them in  buses; they have a good track-record of their characters, verified from the village ‘sarpnaches’ or MC’s with their hand-written comments, etc. Finally, police should be given the list of all the drivers and conductors for their verification at local level.

Installation of CCTV Cameras

Although the installation of CCTV cameras may seem expensive to the school managements, but it must be kept in mind that nothing is expensive and costliest than the lives of the children.

All sensitive places and corners must be covered by them. The most deserted areas sometimes prove fatal for the security of the children. Such places must be covered through the hidden eyes of the camera.

Very few bother about security check-up at the entry gates. CCTV cameras must be installed to record the entry and exist of outsiders at the entry and the exit gates.

The instant footage of the CCTV cameras needs to be viewed by the Principal’s in his office every time. If he or she is busy, other person from school should be deputed.

Crime does not happen every time. Accidents do not happen every time, but every time vigilance and carefulness keeps us secured.

Internal Discipline in Schools

Although all good administrators/principals in schools make a committee of students to ensure discipline during recess periods and some teachers are also there on their general duty during the day to check all types of needful things and requirements, yet I have something to say in this regard.

In every class, there are two or three students who bully their fellow students or their juniors. They go to wash room every now and then. They slip from the class as soon as the bell rings to announce another period.

Do you know what they usually do? They enter the washrooms of the younger students and tease them in several ways. Sometimes they bully them by throwing up and down without getting them hurt physically, or they shake them violently to frighten them so as they may get ransom in terms of money or gifts. The frightened children do not mention anything against them. Some students find a secure place to fight with their adversaries in the washrooms.

The need is to keep washrooms in continuous vigilance. The playgrounds  are also to be taken into care and vigilance.

Teachers can check this problem to a great extent by sending another student as to why the student gone to washroom previously has not arrived quickly.

There may be so many points more to discuss on this issue. But today it is sufficient to share my views with you on this important problem.

Know Thy Students (For Teachers & Principals)

Know Thy Students

(For Teachers & Principals)

Teaching students the subjects of their syllabus is not an easy job. It becomes formidable when the teachers have to deal with the students who are entirely ‘out of tune’ and not focused at all on their subjects. Some teachers may ignore such students thinking that over-all grading of these students will be satisfactory due to their good response in other activities. Moreover, such teachers may have a common excuse in their defense ‘that these students are also not focused in other subjects.’

But, it is not advisable for the teachers to ignore them because it is their duty to bring them in the mainstream and make them in tune with other students. Before I put forward some suggestions, let me give an analysis of a class on the basis of general discussion with so many teachers.

Usually, the students of a class having 40 students may be divided in four categories. 

The students who are well motivated, obedient, talented, enthusiastic and full of the spirit of competition fall in the first category.

The second category includes the students who are desirous of coming in the first category, but they lag behind due to one reason or the other. They also have enthusiasm to learn the things. They are also obedient, but they fail to touch their target to come in the first category. Actually, such students need teachers’ a little bit more attention. Some of them may suffer from the tendency for ‘slow in writing’, ‘bad- hand-writing’, ‘slow in understanding’, having ‘weak eye-sight’, being ‘bullied by their bench mates, while a few other students’may suffer from ‘ADHD’ (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), etc. Some of their parents may be illiterate, so they may feel difficulty in understanding their topic at home. Some of them need repetition by the teacher while he or she is teaching the whole class. 
Here, I would like to mention that some teachers may lack in patience when some students wish repetition of a certain points. The teacher must never take it for granted that all the students are able to understand everything in the first ‘go’. 
The teacher must be proficient in understanding the child’s psychology. He or she must read the faces of the students while teaching them and keep their eye-contact with each and every student every now and then so that the careless students may remain alert. There is a dire need of having penetrating eyes which can scan the minds of the students.

The students under this category can be upgraded by the efforts of the teacher concerned. They form a bigger chunk of the whole class and, therefore, the result of the class can be upgraded if this category of the students is properly given heed.

The third category of the students is very less in number, but they keep the teachers always on their toes or in troubled waters. They draw the teachers’ attention every now and then by their tactics, pranks and mischievous activities. They are five to ten in each class. If you call their parents, they also show their helplessness in tackling them. They are the cause of disturbance in the class. They waste not only teachers',precious time but also they disturb their process of thoughts.

The fourth category of the students includes those who are passive-learners. They may sleep even while they are watching towards the teachers intently. Their number may vary from class to class, but in general, they are five or seven students. They do not participate in any type of activities arranged in school. These students need maximum attention by all the teachers. They are very much lagging behind other students in their studies. It seems that no one has inspired them how to dream about life, to nourish thoughts for their progress and how to learn questions and answers. The answers dictated to them or written on the blackboard in bookish language are beyond their reach. They suffer from so many deficiencies which are to be detected by the teachers who spend much time with them. They also need counseling from time to time so that they may build up some confidence in them. If the teachers find time to talk to them on their problems, about their family backgrounds, their dreams in life in a very friendly manner, they may develop a rapport with the teachers and that will surely help them tackle these students.

The Principal of the school may demand latest reports about the students of any of these categories and may also demand suggestions in meetings to tackle their problems.

It is pertinent to note here that a few students in each class may suffer from ‘ADHD’ (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) and they should be detected and treated likewise with the help of the counsellor, their teachers and parents.

While tackling the erring students, it should always be kept in mind that they are passing through the very critical phase of their life, i.e. adolescent period. So an extra element of sympathy is needed on the part of the teachers while dealing with them. The teachers should place themselves in their position and imagine the time when they themselves were going through that phase of life. In this period, the students need attention. They want recognition. Finding themselves  unable to reach the top of studies, some of the students resort to making mischief in the class-rooms so that other students may well recognize them. Although this way is negative for them, yet it suits them well and they don’t bother about its negative side effects.  So, such students may be given opportunity to take part in some activities suitable to them. This is the period when the students have immense energies in them and that needs to be channelized properly. 

But the common problem that is found mostly in public schools is their tight time-table schedule. A period is hardly of half an hour. A teacher finds hardly 20 minutes to teach his or her lesson properly. Then there is a pressure of completing the syllabus on time. The teacher does not find ample time to repeat the topic if it is desired by some.
Another thing that creates hurdle in teachers' way is the over-dose of activities arranged in such schools to outshine, although activities are also necessary for the all round development of students. 

Some schools arrange activities after recess when the periods of major subjects are over. If the activities come after the second or the third period, it causes over-excitement in most of the students and for one or two periods, they are not well focused.

It also happens that some students from other schools also join a particular school due to any reason. These students are usually below the mark and they keep on going up from one class to the other without much improvement. When they appear in a board class, they bring low results, and it spoils the name of the school.

If the school has allowed them admission due to any constraint, it is its duty to find ways to teach them in some extra period separately.

Know Thy Personality

Have you ever tried to understand your personality? If not, please do it.

We very often think about others and keep on evaluating their personalities.

This does not benefit us so much as we are benefited by doing our own evaluation and introspection.

If we understand ourselves, we can remove our deficiencies and bring about an improvement in ourselves.

If we think ourselves perfect, it’s our folly.

Nothing is perfect in this mortal world; nothing is complete truth, except God.

 The first stage to understand ourselves is that we should believe that we are not perfect in everything. We must consider ourselves incomplete beings and try to find out as to in which area we are deficient.

I may tell you to the easiest way to find out our deficiency. I will present before you several personalities you will find out yourselves among them.

Please take it granted that everyone cannot have everything.  We are always deficient in one thing or the other in our life.

If you have patience, believe me that you possess the greatest treasure of the world.

  

Some people (men or women) are such as want to make themselves pitiable & discontented and find peace and satisfaction in this situation even if they have enough in their life. Despite that, they have to remain uncomfortable and worried.

Think of a person in whose house ‘all is well’; the son works in a company; daughters have been married off and he (father) himself lives willingly in his parental village with his wife.

  

He still nourishes a hope that his son must take prior permission from him to fulfill all domestic needs. For example, if he wants to purchase an AC or a washing machine for his use, he must ask his father for permission.

If you are such a father, please understand and grant your son independence in this independent country. It you are such a son, we feel sorry for you and hope that your father will be reading this blog!

Let your son live according to his decisions when he becomes economically independent.

Now I tell you about a person, who is a woman; who got married two or three years ago.

When a girl becomes a married woman and comes to live in a new house with her in-laws, she has to bring about some changes in her personality; she has to make some adjustments in new conditions and has to make a coordination and harmony where there are hurdles and oddities.

If she does not do so, she will remain upset.

There are such persons who always take delight in teasing others or disturbing peaceful atmosphere by their pieces of mischief.

Dear readers, you will be astonished to know that such persons are found in abundance in this world.

( In my next blog, I will talk about some more personalities. Please wait!)

अपने वक्तित्व को समझिए! Understand Your Personality!

क्या आपनेअपने आप को समझने का प्रयत्न कभी किया है?

यदि  नहीं तो कृपया ऐसा अवश्य कीजिये l

हम अक्सर दूसरों के ही बारे में सोचते हैं और उनके ही व्यक्तित्व के बारे में अपना मूल्यांकन करते रहते हैंl

इस मूल्यांकन का हमें इतना लाभ नहीं होता  जितना हमें अपना मूल्यांकन करने से होता हैl

यदि हम अपने आप को समझ लें तो हम अपनी कमियों को दूर कर सकते हैं, स्वयं में सुधार कर सकते हैं l

यदि हम स्वयं को परफेक्ट अथवा पूर्ण मानते हैं तो यह हमारी भूल हैl

इस संसार में कुछ भी पूर्ण नहीं हैं ; कुछ भी पूर्ण सत्य नहीं है सिवाय परमात्मा केl

पहला चरण यही है कि हम स्वयं को अधूरा मान लें और अपनी कमियों को ढूढ़ने का प्रयत्न   करेंl 

अपनी कमियों को ढूढ़ने का मैं आपको सरल उपाय बताता हूँ l

जिन व्यकित्वों की मैं अब बात करूँगा, आप केवल यह पहचानने का प्रयत्न  कीजिये कि उनमें से आप कौन से हैंl

कृपया आप यह भी मान कर चलिए कि सब को सब कुछ कभी नहीं मिल सकता; किसी न किसी वस्तु की कमी आपके जीवन में अवश्य रहती हैंl

यदि संतोष और सब्र आपके पास है तो समझ लीजिए की दुनियां का सबसे बड़ा खजाना आप के पास हैl

 कुछ व्यक्ति (महिला या पुरुष)  ऐसे होते हैं जो स्वयं को दया का पात्र बनl कर रखना कहते हैं; उन्हें इसी स्थिति में सुकून या चैन मिलता हैl

भले ही उनके जीवन में बहुत कुछ है l इतना होने के बावजूद भी उन्हें परेशान और बेचैन रहना ही हैl

ऐसा व्यक्तित्व एक पिता का भी हो सकता है, जिसके घर में सब ठीक है, बेटा किसी कम्पनी में जॉब करता है और अपनी पत्नी के साथ दूर किसी शहर में रहता है ; बेटी या बेटियों की शादी हो चुकी है और वह स्वयं अपनी इच्छा से अपने पुश्तैनी गांव में अपनी पत्नी के साथ  रहता हैl  

वह अपने बेटे से अब भी यही उम्मीद करता है कि वह अपने सारे कार्य उनसे पूछ पूछ कर करे  यदि कोई बड़ी वस्तु घर में खरीद कर लानी है तो उनसे ही परमिशन लेंl

यदि आप भी ऐसे पिता हैं तो कृपया अपने बेटे को स्वतन्त्र ही रहने दीजियेl

उसे अपना जीवन उसके  अनुसार ही जीने दीजिये l

मैं अब आपको ऐसे ही व्यक्ति के बारे में बताता हूँ जो  एक महिला हो सकती है, जिन की शादी दो तीन वर्ष पूर्व ही हुई हैl जब कोई लड़की शादी होने के कारण अपने सास व् ससुर के घर आती है तो उसे अपने जीवन में कुछ बदलाव लाने होते हैंl उसे अब दूसरों की सोच  और अपनी सोच में ताल -मेल या समन्वय स्थापित करना होता हैl

यदि वह ऐसा नहीं करेगी तो परेशान ही रहेगीl

कुछ व्यक्तित्व ऐसे होते हैं जिन्हे अशांति पैदा करने में ही मज़ा आता हैl

प्रिय पाठको आप हैरान होंगे कि इस दुनियां में ऐसे व्यक्तित्व बहुत हैंl

(अभी शेष है ...)

...how to react to unsavoury remarks.

Pupil: Sometimes our own near and dear ones say something that hurts and pinches us so much that we get irritated and intend to react immediately in the same tone. Several times we do so, but that spoils the mood and our day gets lost somewhere because those words keep on haunting our mind. Whenever we think to enjoy our present time, those words of the past appear before our inward eye and dance like specters horrible.

What is the solution to it?

Teacher: What do you want?

Pupil: I want peace of mind. I want to enjoy my present time quite oblivious of the unsavoury things.

Teacher: Then, why do you complain about this. Forget the incident and enjoy your present.

Pupil: I want to set him or her right?

Teacher: How can you set others right without setting yourself right?

Pupil: I have not understood your point Guruji.

Teacher: It is very simple. Suppose you react at once in the same tone to make him or her irritated because you yourself have got the one. It would not decrease your irritation, rather the Satan in you will be pleased and he will keep on inciting you to do such negative activities.

On the other hand, if you console yourself by making you understand that that person has very little sense of behaviour. He or she has not got broad mind to behave with people in a courteous manner. So it is not his or her fault. So why make myself irritated?

Pupil. Thank you Guruji. I would follow it now and make my life go smoothly and peacefully.