Tips For Becoming A Good Speaker

Tips For Becoming A Good  Speaker

We all know that we convey our thoughts through our speech.

Therefore, almost all of us want to become very good speakers in order to convey our thoughts to others in a very effective manner.

There are certain tips for improving the art of speaking.

1.Very good knowledge about the grammar of the language you speak

First of all, the basic structures of the language you speak must be clear to you.

2.Your sentences should be grammatically correct. 

Do not use any slang in your formal language.

3.Moderate Pitch of Voice

The pitch or the scale of your voice should be moderate: neither too high nor too low.

The listener should be able to understand easily what you speak. Some people speak at a very high pitch of their voice. It is very irritating and harmful to the listener.

·  The speaker cannot produce a desired effect on the listener if he or she speaks at a high pitch of voice.

·  Similarly, speaking at a low pitch of voice is not effective because the listener is not able to understand what you want to convey.

4.Tempo of the speech

 Moderate Tempo of the Speech

 It should be neither too fast nor too slow.

 When the speaker is very fast, the listener would feel difficulty to understand the meaning

 of the sentences.

If the speaker is very much slow, it  may cause dullness and laziness to the listener. Long pauses in speech may be irritating to the listener.  

If there are pauses, the speaker should have a practice for filling up those gaps with some common gap fillers like: ‘I mean to say, as you know, what you call it, okay…., hum……, well…., etc.

5.No touch of regional language

In our country, several regional languages are spoken. If the speaker uses the tinge of any regional language, the beauty of the language is spoilt.

Suppose the speaker is speaking English language and he is speaking it in Haryanvi or Punjabi style, you may well imagine the fate of English being spoken.

It is also true that it is very difficult to keep the purity of English spoken as a second language, but still, efforts can be made to speak it with the right pronunciation of the words.

If you are to speak Hindi, speak it with purity. Similarly you can speak other languages with purity.

6.Proper Delivery of the Words

When we speak words, we should keep in mind that we are doing full justice to the words we speak.

It means that we should speak full words and by giving them full energetic throw.

We should not  drop the sound of the last syllables in our sentences.

Some people may be doing this unintentionally because they do not know the fact that they are dropping the sound of last syllables.

For example, you want to pronounce the word ‘education’, splendid, determined, you must speak them correctly.

7.When you are speaking in a flow, sometimes you will have to squeeze or stretch certain words to give your speech a fluency.

For example:

Read the sentences:

 ‘A good conversation does not include the topics about  kitchen, the best cleansers, business, bus-time tables and several other dull topics.’

After squeezing and stretching:

‘Agoodconversation अगुडकनवशेशन (noun phrase as the subject) doesn’-tinclude- डजन्टइन्क्लूड

thetopicsabout-kitchen दटॉपिक्सअबाउटकिचन,

thebestcleansers,business,bus-timetables andseveralotherdulltopics.’

    द बेस्ट क्लिंजेर्स बसटाइमटेबल्स

    एनसेवरलअदअडलटॉपिक्स

7.Practice of short and long vowel sounds to give the clarity to the words spoken

For example

The vowel sounds in the following words:

 (i) about अबाउट, glass ग्लास , bad बैड, bus बस, bird ब्अड,

 (ii) bed बेड

(iii) sit सिट, seat सीट

(iv) Dog डॉग

(vii) ball बोल

 (viii)Book बुक

(ix)Root रूट

Diphthongs:

 1. sheer शीअ(र)

2. How हाउ

3. Fate फेईट

4.Rare  रेअ(र)

5. Tour टूअ(र)

6. Site साईट

7. Joy जोई

8. so सउ

8.Self Confidence: This is very important for all kinds of speakers.

If there is no self confidence, you cannot think of becoming a very good speaker.

The reasons for having less confidence:

1. Feeling shy: If you feel shy of speaking in front of others, it means you need exposure.

(a)  It seems that your parents and teachers did not encourage you to speak in front of others or they might not have noticed your weakness of feeling shy. With the passage of time, it continued growing within you.

Whatever be its reasons, you must remove your shyness and come out of it immediately if you wish to change your personality.

Suggestions:

a.  Start interacting with the members of your      family immediately. Never feel shy of                speaking to your father, mother, sister,            brother, cousins and all.

b. Always try finding out opportunities to                   speak to others.

 c. When you meet others in a family function,            be friendly with them.

    d. Do not wait for the time that they will                       start conversing with you.

     e.Be an initiator. Begin your conversation                     about anything like weather, about day-to-               day events or the politics of your country.

In this manner your shyness would be removed within a short period.

 There may be some other reasons for your feeling   hesitant of speaking in front of others.

1. You may be a victim of inferiority complex.
2. You may be thinking that you will not be able to express your ideas properly or in a better way in front of people.
3. You may compare yourself with others to find good points in them, but, at the same time, imbibe those good points in you but never get overwhelmed by the persons who possess them. It means you must not feel inferior to them.
4. If you do so, you will be a victim of your own weak points.

What are those weak points that you may think about?

     (i) You may think that your voice quality is poorer than those of  others.

Okay…! It may be poorer but you may improve your voice quality. It is very easy. 

a.Another point you may think about is that the person to whom you are speaking to is very learned, qualified or a rich person or may be your superior or boss or maybe your teacher.

b.You must come out of your imaginary fears that you will not be able to express your views in front of such people.

c.Be confident and start speaking before them whenever you get proper chance.

d.Believe me that they will be pleased to see that you are speaking and sharing your views in front of them with them.

e.In the beginning you may speak not in a coherent way, after a few efforts you will feel natural and confident in front of them.

f.But never give up! Keep your will power always strong and alive.

g.Always remember that you want to become a very good speaker.

h.Some of you may also think that you have not a good command over the language you want to speak, particularly English and Hindi.

      Do not worry, you just start speaking and side by       side try to pick up the commonly spoken                   sentences and phrases.

j.Load your Hindi sentences with words in the beginning and then with phrases or half sentences( Principal or subordinate clauses).

In this way you will become habitual of using English in your sentences.

k.Think every action in English.

l.Create a permanent zeal for speaking the language of your choice and within a couple of weeks you will see the improvement within you.

m.Sometimes the impact of the regional language may come in the language you want to speak. Try to remain conscious or alert about it for some days.

 After a few days, you may be able to remove the impact of the regional language.

But it needs constant effort on your part.

Very often, I have seen that some students hesitate to speak with others because they do not have full knowledge about the topic being discussed.

In that case, keeping silent is their natural choice.

If this is also your case, you must keep updating yourselves about the current issues that are often discussed by people.

If some students discuss about movies, you must get knowledge about the latest or the old movies. It adds to your general knowledge.

If your friends sometimes discuss about music, you also increase your knowledge about music. For example, they may talk about pop singers, ghazal singers, etc.

Similarly you must update your knowledge about sports, history, politics, etc. to enhance your knowledge.

   It means a very good speaker must have a very      good knowledge about several areas of general  

   knowledge.

   It also means that many of the students or the        people remain silent in most of the situations  

   because they have nothing to say.

   Sometimes it may also happen with you that you    want to say something that is already said by

   others who are present before you.

   Never mind! Such type of situation may arise          very often with anyone. I have read somewhere      that

   Gandhi ji faced the same type of problem when      he was a student of law in England.

   Try thinking very different from others. Be      natural in your responses.

•  Speak what you feel very close to your heart.

•  Be natural in your expression. Do not cram the subject matter on which you want to speak.

•  Keep some points or ideas in your mind and then explain them one by one.

Steps to boost your confidence in speaking:

Suppose you have a very good knowledge about the current issues and general knowledge, but still you hesitate to take part in a discussion or speak in front of your class and teacher or in the morning assembly  

Tips to Score above 90% Marks in Exams

अपनी ऊर्जा को व्यर्थ की सोच एवं व्यर्थ कार्यों में नष्ट न कीजिये! Do not waste your energy in useless thoughts and actions.( In English also)

अपनी ऊर्जा को व्यर्थ की सोच एवं व्यर्थ कार्यों में नष्ट न कीजिये!

मैं ऐसे कुछ लोगों को जानता हूँ जो अपने दिन की शुरआत बड़े ही सहज और शांत मन के साथ करते हैं १

मैंने ऐसे लोगों को भी देखा है जो अपने दिन की शुरुआत तनावपूर्ण ढंग से करते हैं१

आओ सबसे पहले उन लोगों से मिलते हैं जो अपना दिन तनावपूर्ण ढंग से आरम्भ करते हैं!

ऐसे लोग सबसे पहले अपने बच्चों और बीवी को सोते हुए देख कर तनाव में आ जाते हैं१

ये बुड़बुड़ाना आरम्भ कर देते हैं: "इनका तो कुछ नहीं हो सकता १ कितनी बार कहा है कि स्वयं  शीघ्र उठोगी तो बच्चों को भी शीघ्र उठने की आदत हो जाएगी १ सारा दिन सोती रहती है १ मैं चार बजे जागा था....एक घंटे के लिए सैर भी कर आया...ये फिर भी सो रहीं है १ बच्चों को जगाकर उन्हें पढ़ा भी तो सकती है १"

ये महाशय रात को देर से सोते हैं और जल्दी उठ जाते हैं १ इन्हे नींद सही ढंग से नहीं आती क्यों कि जब ये रात को सोते हैं तो आने वाले कल के लिए ढेर सारी प्लानिंग कर के सोने का प्रयत्न  करते है१ 
जब सोते समय कोई योजनाएं बनाने लगेगा तो नींद सही ढंग से नहीं आती १ रात को जब इनकी नींद बीच में टूटती  है तो इनकी योजनाएं फिर शुरू हो जाती हैं १

सुबह चार बजे इन्हे अपने बिस्तर से उठना ही पड़ता हैं क्योंकि नींद तो इन्हे आएगी ही नहीं!

सैर से लौटने के पश्चात ये अपनी ऊर्जा अपनी बीवी और बच्चों को जगाने में नष्ट करते हैं १

शेष दिन इनका कैसे बीतता होगा आप कल्पना कर सकते हैं १

बेहतर यह है कि रात को जब आप सोना चाहते हो तो कोई अपना मनपसंद संगीत सुनिए, ग़ज़ल सुनिए, गीत या भजन कम वॉल्यूम पर सुनना आरम्भ कीजिये और धीरे धीरे आप को नींद आ जाएगी1

कई लोगों को टीवी पर कोई प्रोग्राम देखते हुवे नींद आ जाती है1

सबसे बेहतर फार्मूला है कि आप दिन भर श्रम कीजिये और नींद आपको समय पर आ जाएगी1 

कृपया अपना मन शांत रखिये1

अपनी समस्याओं से घिरे मत रहिये1

उनका विश्लेषण कीजिये1

जिस समस्याओं का हल आपके पास हैं, उनका समाधान निकालिये और जिनका  नहीं हैं, आप अपने किसी विश्वाशपात्र मित्र के पास जाइये और सलाह लीजिये1

यदि फिर भी कोई समाधान न मिले तो सब कुछ ईश्वर पर छोड़ दीजिये और निश्चिन्त हो जाइये इस विश्वाश के साथ कि 'ईशवर जो भी करता है, हमारी भलाई के लिए ही करता है '

फिर चाहे दुःख मिले या सुख उसे उपरवाले की मर्ज़ी मान कर सहन कीजिये1

सुख या दुःख आते जाते रहते हैं1

ऐसा नहीं है कि दुःख सदैव हमारे जीवन में रहेंगे1

तो दोस्तों अपने जीवन को सहज और सरल बनाइये!!!

मैंने कुछ लोगों को सैर करते हुए देखा है १

कुछ लोग समूह में सैर करना पसंद करते हैं १

अगर आप इन लोगों को ध्यान से देखो और सुनो तो आप जान जाओगे कि इनमें एक लीडर-टाइप होता है जिसके पीछे-पीछे आठ दस और लोग बड़ी तेज गति के साथ चल रहे होते हैं 1 

वह लीडर टाइप व्यक्ति ज़ोर-ज़ोर से बोल रहा होता हैं: किसी राजनैतिक पार्टी जिससे उसका कोई सम्बन्ध नहीं होता उसे कोस रहा होता है १ गालियां दे रहा होता है १ वह अपने आप को ज्ञानी मानता है और दूसरे जो उसके सामने मौन हैं उन्हें अज्ञानी १ कई बार तो उस व्यक्ति  की बातें सुन कर उसके अपने ही ग्रुप में से उसकी बात को काट देता है: तो शुरू हो जाता है महाभारत!

कुछ लोग अकेले में या दो-तीन के समूह में सैर करते हैं बिलकुल चुप चाप१ ऐसे लोग अपने अंदर असीम ऊर्जा को संग्रहित कर रहे होते हैं १ ये ऊर्जा उनको दिन भर लाभ देती है 1 

कई अध्यापक स्टाफरूप में बैठ कर अपने ख़ाली पीरियड में अपनी ऊर्जा को गप्पें  मारने में नष्ट कर रहे होते हैं जब कि वे अपनी ऊर्जा को चुप रह कर या अपने अगले पीरियड की तैयारी करके अपनी ऊर्जा का सदुपयोग कर सकते हैं १ 
कुछ अध्यापक ख़ाली घंटी (Period) का प्रयोग नकारात्मक ढंग से करते हैं: इधर-उधर की बातें करके, मुखिया की कार्यशैली पर अपने कटाक्ष कर के, अपने प्रतिद्वंदी अध्यापक पर व्यंग भरे कटाक्ष  कर के या राजनीति  या कोई और चर्चा कर के !

ठीक है राजनैतिक चर्चा भी करनी होती हैं, परन्तु जब आप स्वयं को ख़ाली पाओ यानि जब अपने सभी कार्य सही कर रखे हों १   

विद्यार्थी भी अपनी ऊर्जा को व्यर्थ में नष्ट करने में पीछे नहीं हैं१

जब अध्यापक कक्षा में पढ़ा रहे होतें हैं तो उनमें से बहुत से कल्पना में लीन होते हैं या चुपचाप अपने साथी के साथ बातें कर रहे होते हैं १

यदि कक्षा बिलकुल शांत हो कर पूरे मन से अध्यापक की बात सुने....तो कमाल न हो जाये???

परन्तु ये कमाल होता नहीं....हर कक्षा में कुछ एक ऐसे विद्यार्थी अवश्य ही होतें हैं जो इस कमाल  को होने ही नहीं देते १ 

एक कविता है ..........जिसमें कवि आह्वान करता है यदि सारे  विश्व के लोग कुछ पलों के लिए अपने सभी कार्य छोड़ कर चुपचाप ऑंखें बंद कर के आत्मविश्लेषण करें तो कमाल हो जाये १

कल्पना करो एक आतंकवादी जो कोई विस्फोट करने जा रहा हो ......वह अपने गलत कार्य को कुछ पलों के लिए छोड़ नहीं देगा?

सभी अपराधी अपने अपराध कुछ [पलों के लिए छोड़ देंगें१ 

इसका लाभ यह होगा कि जब बुरे लोग आत्म विश्लेषण करेंगे तो वे अपने द्वारा किये गए बुरे कार्यों पर मनन करेंगे १

हो सकता है उन बुरे लोगों के मन में कोई परिवर्तन आ जाये या वे परिवर्तन कि प्रकिर्या पर कार्य करना आरम्भ कर दें?

Do not waste your energy in useless thoughts and actions.

I know such people who begin their day in a very natural way.

 I have seen such people also who begin their day in a very tense manner.

Let’s meet the people who begin their day in a stressful manner.

Such people, first of all, feel tense to notice their wives and children sleeping when they themselves are awake.

You may find one grumbling, “Nothing can be done to them. Many times I have told her to wake up early in the morning so that the children also become habitual of it. I woke at 4 a. m……have returned after walking for one hour….she is still sleeping. She can wake up the children and make them sit fro studying.

These gentlemen go to sleep late at night. They do not get sleep properly because when they go to bed, they try to sleep while thinking about so many plans about tommow.

When someone goes to bed with a plethora of plans in his mind, sleep eludes him or her.

When their sleep is broken at midnight due to some disturbance or some natural call, the reel of planning resumes in their mind.

As a result of it, they have to leave the bed at 4 a. m.

After coming back from walking, they waste their energy on waking their children and wives.

How the rest of their day passes, you can well imagine!

  

It will be better to listen to some favourite music, ghazal, song or bhajan at the low pitch of sound when you wish to go into the lap of sleep. Gradually you will be enjoying sound sleep while the music is on to soothe your tired mind.

Some people go to sleep while watching their favourite programme on TV.

The best formula to enter into the realm of sleep is to work hard during the day. You will fall asleep on time.

Please keep your mind serene and keep your problems at bay. Do not get overpowered by them.

Analyse them to find their solutions. After analyzing them, find out solutions to them if you have any.

If you don’t have solution for some, take advice of any of your most trusted friend. If you find no solution form him or her, then leave those problems to God and forget about them. Whatever be the consequence, take it as the will of God Almighty.

Always believe in the tenet that whatever God does, He does it for our welfare.

After that, you get pleasure or pain, joy or sorrow; accept them as the gift from God.

Neither joy nor sorrow remains forever. They come and go; come and go….

Nothing is permanent in this world of flux.

So, friends, make your life simple and natural.

I have seen some people walking.

Some people like to walk in a group.

If you watch these people with rapt attention, you will come to know that, among them, there is a leader-type person who is followed by ten or twelve persons walking behind him fast.

That leader-type person is speaking at a louder pitch of his voice. He is cursing the political party with whom he has no alliance. He is abusing it. He considers himself ‘Knowledgeable’ while ignorant to those who are his silent listeners.

Sometimes it so happens that one of his group members snaps the thread of his argument or claims. Then ‘Mahabharta’ takes place!!!

 Some people prefer walking alone in a small group. Peacefully.

Such people keep a stock of huge energy within themselves. This energy benefits them throughout the day.

Some teachers waste their stock of energy in gossiping while sitting in the staff room in their vacant periods while they can save it or utilize it in preparing for their next period.

Some of the teachers use their vacant period negatively by talking about useless things, by satirizing the working style of the principal or criticizing their opponent teachers or talking about politics.

 It’s okay that they should also talk on politics. But do it only when you are vacant after completing your pending work.

 Students are also not far behind in wasting their energy.

When the teacher is teaching in the class, many of them are lost in their dream worlds or secretly talking with their partners.

Would it not be a wonderful experience if the full class listens to the teacher with full attention silently?

But such miracle does not happen in the class-rooms!

Every class has such students who are designed to stop such miracle happen.

There is a beautiful poem ‘Keeping Quiet’ by Pablo Neruda.

The poet imagines that if all the people of the world sit in silence for a few seconds suspending their all physical activities and start introspecting themselves, it would really be a wonderful experience.

Imagine that a terrorist, who is going to blast, suspends his nefarious task for a few seconds.

  

All the criminals will suspend their crimes for a few seconds.

This will lead to the benefit that the wicked people while doing introspection might start thinking on their evil deeds which they performed in the past. It may be possible that there occurs some change in their mind to abandon evil deeds or the process towards positivism might begin in them!!!

Road Rage Incidents: Outcome of What?

Feb 14, 2016
Monday
Good morning friends!
Sorry for the delay in visiting the site!
Friends, I was thinking to write about something unique, but the problem of choice created delay in writing.
The unique thought has not visited my mind today also.
But I am resolute to give some food for the soul.
Yesterday, I was coming from my native village. On the way, I saw two persons quarrelling. One was shouting at the other in loud voice and the other was not reacting so fiercely as the first one.
I went near them and came to know that it was the case of road rage.
People lose patience on roads and reach the verge of killing the other if any of them happens to overtake the vehicle or if the vehicle is rubbed due to rush on the road or due to carelessness.
In some cases, murders also take place.
You might be thinking that it happened because the other person had caused damage to the vehicle.
In my humble opinion, the cause lies somewhere else.
We attach ourselves to the material things so much that we cannot tolerate the least damage to them. We have become too much possessive!
Issues can be resolved amicably.
Sometimes we see children fighting on toys; the same thing we grown ups do.
If someone happens to hit your car from behind in cities like Delhi where the vehicles don't run but crawl following at the hit-prone distance, try to place yourself in his position and you will find the answer and then you will not lose patience. If the damage is minor, you should say "It's olay."
If the damage is substantial, you should try to resolve the issue amicably.
Do not let your ego bubble up if the other person is bent on quarrelling. These incidents are the outcome of sheer dissatisfaction in life and mental pressure.
In that case,  losing temper will aggravate the situation. Note down the number of vehicle take a photograph and call the police.
In some cases the situation does not remain in your control; in that case think and decide reasonably.
That's all for today.
Have a nice day!

विद्यार्थी और शारीरिक दंड: Students and Physical Punishment

नमस्कार दोस्तों!
आज गुरु नानक देवजी के जन्म दिवस पर सब को बधाई!
कई दिनों से हिंदी में कुछ लिखने की सोच रहा था, आज सवेरे कुछ विद्यार्थियों की पोस्ट पर शारीरिक दंड के बारे में अपनी टिप्पणी लिख रहा था तो सोचा इसी विषय पर मैं अपने कुछ विचार आप सबके लिए लिख दूँ १
परन्तु मैं यह भी चाहता हूँ कि आप अपने विचार भी टिप्पणी के रूप में गूगल प्लस पर अवश्य लिखें १
दंड का प्रावधान समाज में सदियों से चलता आ रहा है १ गुरु अपने शिष्यों को शारीरिक दंड सकारात्मक ढंग से सदैव देते रहे हैं ताकि विद्यार्थी के मन में शारीरिक दंड से उत्पन्न होने वाली असुविधा या पीड़ा का आभास हो और वह उसके मन में उस दंड का भय हो १
फलस्वरूप वह विद्यार्थी भविष्य में अपनी गलती न दोहराये१
एक ज़माना था जब कुछ अभिभावक अध्यापक को यह कहने आते थे कि आप बच्चों में सुधार लाने के लिए शारीरिक दंड अवश्य दीजिये१
परन्तु बदले की भावना के कारण और विद्यार्थियों को ट्यूशन के लिए विवश करने के लिए कुछ अध्यापकों ने शारीरिक दंड का प्रयोग किया है जिसके कारण इस प्रथा पर पाबन्दी लग चुकी है १
मेरा यह मानना है कि पाबन्दी अभिभावकों पर घर में बच्चों को शारीरिक दंड देने पर भी होनी चाहिए ताकि बच्चे दोनों जगह शैरीरिक दंड  के भोगी न बनें १
होना तो यह चाहिए कि हम सब बिना किसी भय के अपना कार्य निष्ठां से करते जाएँ १
परन्तु आप सब जानते हैं कि अधिकतर लोग दबाव और भय  में अपने कर्तव्यों के प्रति अधिक सक्रिय होते हैं १
जब  ट्रैफिक पुलिस अधिक सख्त और सक्रिय हो जाती है तो लोग नियमों का अनुपालन भी करने लग जाते हैं १
हमारे बच्चे भी तो यही सब देख और महसूस कर रहे हैं १ जब हम बड़े लोग भी अपने कार्यों में टालमटोल करते हैं, नियम तोड़ रहे होते हैं तो बच्चे ऐसा क्यों नहीं करेंगे ?
घर में माता पिता बच्चे को डरा धमका कर अपना कार्य तो करवा लेते हैं परन्तु जब अध्यापकों को अपना दिया हुआ कार्य करवाने की बात आती है तो उन्हें कोई डराए या धमकाए भी न?
दोहरे मापदंड हैं ये!
आज विद्यालयों में अध्यापकों के लिए बच्चों को पढ़ाना अति कठिन हो गया है १
कुछ विद्यार्थी अपनी उदंडता दिखाते ही रहते हैं : अध्यापक उन्हें क्लास से बाहर निकालता रहता है और वे विद्यार्थी इसमें भी आनंद का अनुभव करते रहते हैं १ बहुत से बच्चे अपना कार्य नियमित रूप से नहीं करते ,न ही वे अपनी पुस्तकों और कापियों का ध्यान रखते हैं.....उन्हें कैसे सुधारे...........???

Conflict between Body and Soul

Suppose you never drive your car and you have a driver of your own. You are very happy with him as he drives your vehicle safely following all the rules of traffic and makes you reach your destination in time.

If he starts disobeying you and reverses all what he had been doing in the past, what will you think of him?

 Now he does not care for the traffic rules, nor does he make you reach your destination on time. How would you react?

Certainly, you would react strongly? You may also decide to sack him if he refuses to comply with your orders.

Friends, similar is the case with our body.

Our soul is the master and the Body is the servant, like the driver quoted in the above example.

If our Body disobeys the Soul, it would lead to disintegration and in that case neither the body nor the soul would progress.

Our activities are controlled by our mind. All of us experience two types of voices within us, one is of righteousness and the second is of deviation from the righteousness.

The first voice is known as the divine element, the Soul (the Atma) and the second voice seems to be of our mind.  People differently name it. But I would not name it in the traditional manner. I would call it the voice of our Self (Body) that has so many desires to feed on.

Some desires are basic and very necessary for the survival of our Body. We are well acquainted with these.

But still, our Soul does not permit the Body to satisfy even the necessary desires in excess. It always interferes with the Body, when it demands more.

When the body starts dominating our Soul, the degeneration starts.

So always try to tame your Body that only needs ‘Kha lo, pi lo aur so lo’.

Feed and ignite your Soul with your good thoughts so that actions would also be good.

Talking about Human Relationships: Part One

Accept a Person as a Whole, not in Parts

‘To err is human and forgive divine.'

We have been listening to people reading or speaking about this old saying since the days of our childhood.

But in spite of that we are not ready to forgive others’ mistakes. Rather some of us may be waiting for others to commit mistakes so that we may have a chance to condemn or laugh at them.

On the other hand, when we find ourselves in the same situation, we get easily flared up and expect others to behave themselves in that situation.

It means that we have double standards. We do not want the same type of rough behaviour that we have showed to others in our near past. We forget easily or we do not want to reflect back to our past behaviour.

If we place ourselves in the same situation as the other person is at present, a good change may take place in our beings.

We should forgive others believing the old proverb that ‘to err is human and forgive divine.’

Another fact I would like to mention here is that when we make any type of relationship with others, first we must become doubly sure if the person with whom we wish to go ahead in relationship is compatible to us or not.

Keep in mind that the person is a human being, not any divine entity, who is not prone to commit errors. He/she can commit mistakes in life as you also do. Keep space in your mind for this and then go ahead with relationship.

Nurture your relationship with mutual understanding and forgiveness. Be tolerant to each other’s faults and try not to repeat the mistake once committed.

After that, see how the plant of your relationship grows up in a healthy and tall tree, blessing you with its fruits for the whole life.